Coalition for Positive Sexuality

freaknasty88 · Joined: 04 Nov 2009 Posts: 1

my boyfriend & i have been trying to have a baby for the past 2 & 1/2 yrs but no luck yet. i have my period irregular. we havent gone to check our selfs out yet to see if we can have kids or not. we sometimes notice that after we have sex, sometimes his cum comes out. is that supposed to be "normal" that his cum comes out after we finish having sex? besides that, is there anything that i or both of us can get so that it can help us have a baby?

SMDuncan · Joined: 20 Jul 2009 Posts: 282

It is perfectly normal for a combination of his cum and your personal lubricant to come out of you after sex. Only a partial amount of his cum will make its way to try and fertilize your egg, so the rest of the ejaculate has no where to go but out.
Tracking your ovuation can often help couples realize when they are most fertile but with an irregular period this would be difficult to do.
The best advice I could give you is to visit a fertility specialist. If you have been trying for 2 1/2 years I would suggest going as soon as you can so you can receive proper care and if necessary, treatments. A lot of couples have issues conceiving and visiting the doctor can help regulate those issues.
Best of luck to you and your partner.

katrinak3 · Joined: 15 Sep 2009 Posts: 98

I know from experience that it can be difficult trying to get pregnant and being unsuccessful but there is hope. After 1 year of unsucessful trying you should seek helfp from a fertility specialist. They will let you know what your options are regarding tests that you and your boyfriend could take to see if there is really a problem. There may not be a problem at all but it would help to know then you will have other options to help you get pregnant. Ovulation kits are helpful in determinng your most fertile days but since your cycle is irregular this may be diffficult to track unless you take a test everyday. If you decide to track your ovulation you can pruchase a cheap test at the dollar tree.

Regaring the cum coming out if you want to you can prop your butt up for a few minutes after but thats just a wives tale that it will help the sperm travel up to throught the cervix and into the fallopian tubes. Either way there are alot of sperm in each ejacualation so although it seem as if its all coming out its really not.

And just have fun an relax and dont think about getting pregnant when you two are having sex because it will happen at the right time and that may not be exactly as you planned but just relax and make it a fun experience.